Power of Affirmations

I was reading this book "The Success Principles" by the best selling author Jack Canfield and the chapter of positive affirmations did relate to me in a way and thought I would write a quick blog on that. The Chapter was all about how you create an affirmation, visualize and achieve your goals.

How many of us can claim that we can think flawlessly? Have we ever wondered why we do certain things and did we take time to examine the root cause for it or what initiated the action? It is cognition or the thought process which is performing its job. Most of us are unaware of this important process which is happening within us day in and day out. When we do realize this and bring it to our consciousness we can achieve the way our life will be or adapt ourselves to accept the way things are. It is when you retaliate with reality do you face difficulties in facing the reality.

Law of attraction states that you get what you want. Atleast this is true in my life, things did not happen just like that. I took an inventory of my thoughts and the position where I am now and it did really make a lot of sense in both positive as well as negative perspective. If we just take time out and think why are you in whatever position you are, somewhere within you long time back you had this feeling of becoming what you are now.

So it is all about attitude and practicing and preaching what we want. It will just not happen immediately and the reason is our subconscious mind is trained in a way for a long period and to break this barrier, it requires time and with persistence, we can difinitely do it.

Relationship - Why is it So Hard???

I have been observing these couple who live diagonally opposite to my apartment in the basement. When I said couple they were really old hitting their late sixties. Whenever I come over to my balcony I can catch a glimpse of them either lying down on the grass tanning themselves or just taking out trash. To my surprise both were somewhat handicapped due to the age factor. The old man had a right leg wrapped with some bandage and can use only wheel chair. The old lady will be limping around and pushing the wheel chair of her better half... Did I say better half, hmm may be better end!!!

On occasions I have seen the old lady gliding the wheel chair of her husband to Giant which is 3/4 of a mile and again carrying back groceries and guiding the wheel chair of her husband. I have never seen anybody visiting them nor these couple going anywhere.(Nature of American Compassion). My imagination started flashing out, that their whole world was revolving around that apartment and between them. Do you think they care about the recession or for a matter of fact the hooliganism in Iran or the mysterious death of Michael Jackson? I don't think so and occasionally whenever I brush past them, I tend to observe their face and it is neither sad nor happy. There is some kind of harmony on those faces with a calm and peaceful posture.

Reiterating the above scenario, I was just wondering if they would argue or pick up a fight for petty things. I was even picturing a young couple alongside those old couple as to how each couple would react to a given circumstance. Obviously, the younger couple would be driven by their ego, feelings and emotions to judge the situation. On the other hand I am sure that the older couple will handle these situations in a more immaculate way.

Very few have understood the repercussion's of marriage. Suddenly it dawned on me that marriage is not to have sex, get kids, dine out, shopping or travel but just to have a partner with whom you would love to grow old and in the process enjoy the outcomes that our daily lives deliver to us. This made me to think what happens when we get married or enter into a relationship.

Two persons with different nature and priorities get together to make a successful life. Rather than saying two persons a better term for this would be two personalities with different traits get together. If both personalities are well balanced there should be a smooth sailing. Both people bring different dreams into the relationship and there prevails a bit of an anxiety. It is like taking a new job trying to understand the environment and getting accustomed to that environment. By nature humans tend to resist change and persons with a strong ego have difficulty to make this paradigm shift.

If the relationship is considered on a long term basis the core value of it changes. The little things we do on a daily basis really matter on building a strong trust based relationship. A part of every human yearns for a bit of appreciation for whatever they do. The most important thing is to allow the other person to be who they are in your presence. This gives them the cozy feeling of independence and not being criticized for who they are not. It is more feasible to change ourselves which we have control or influence over with rather than trying to change the other person. "You are not in a right or wrong relationship. Your partner is the mirror of who you are inside"- Deepak Chopra.

Lets hope everyone ends up with a harmonious relationship like the old couple who live in their own world.